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Archive for the ‘Dating’ Category

Apr 08
2012

What Up With The Mindreading, PostSecret?

My friends always work their way around to asking me if I’m dating–and no, I’m not. I feel like I should be but the effort it would take to do so is laughably beyond my current capacity.  Plus, as I only selectively admit in real life, I’m not quite ready. Em asked me yesterday, as […]


Nov 29
2011

Dating Do or Don’t: Connection, Companionship, Coitus, and Commitment

To date or not to date…that is the question. CONS 1. From experience, dating involves a lot of time spent making small talk with men who have no idea how have a successful social interaction, and who choose not to conform to basic social norms around meeting new people like “ask questions” and “make eye […]


Sep 18
2011

Wherein I Betray the March of Herstory

My mother recently gave me a huge, heavy, ornately framed mirror that calls out to be hung on the wall above my bed. I’ve had it for a month. Now, I have been a single woman for eternity, and lived in rickety old houses for that long too, so I know how to hang things. […]


Aug 18
2011

Thoughts on Loneliness

I don’t think it was loneliness that spurred me to start dating again in 2009. I think it was hopefulness (and horniness.)  My life was in a bit of a flux, as I was just coming out of a period of working maniacally around the clock and every weekend for a couple of years, and […]


Aug 03
2011

Always Listen To Your Heart. Except When It Lies.

Today is hard, for some reason.  Nothing I do distracts me from the brick of sadness that sits in my stomach, interfering with the important work of my diaphragm.  I keep catching myself taking deep, almost gasping breaths. Like that is going to change anything. It’s a very first-world problem, I know.  I feel a […]


Aug 01
2011

First Date Questionnaire: 30-something Edition

  1.  On a scale of 1-10, how frightened are you of commitment? 2. Oh really? And that’s why you’re still single/divorced? 3. Complete the following sentence: When I think of my most significant past relationship, I… a) masturbate furiously. b) stalk him/her via every available social media outlet. c) pour a drink and toast […]


Jul 28
2011

UPDATED: Post-Dating Blog Topic Possibilities

I forgot about these.   You Are More Likely To Be Struck By Lightning Than To Get Married After Forty, And Why I Pray That There Is No Third Option Mom, I’m A Lesbian*. Just Kidding! But You’re Never Getting Grandchildren Because I Am Now Too Old That Stupid Motherfucker And How He Did Me […]


Jun 28
2011

Lightning Always Striking Somewhere

This morning, I had some very minor oral surgery done.  I casually texted Lieu last night to tell him about it, mostly because it was happening very close to his office and I knew I might see him on the street.  He picked up the phone and called me immediately (a noticeable violation of our […]


Mar 17
2011

I’m Sure It Will All Go Perfectly.

Lieu and I are going to New York this weekend.  We are staying in a nice hotel, going to a show on Broadway (great seats!), and hanging out with my best friends from college. You know, just like people in casual relationships do. I am anxious about (and excited for) this weekend in a million […]


Feb 15
2011

Hearts and Flowers, Sturm und Drang

How was your Valentine’s Day? Mine was…confusing. I don’t think I’ve ever really had a valentine before. I remember carefully parceling out the paper valentines for my classmates in grammar school, making sure that nothing suggestive went to any boys, lest they get the wrong idea and subsequently give me cooties. In my misspent twenties, […]