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Dec 28

25 Thing Thursday: 2011 Year in Review Questionnaire

(Quiz lifted from All & Sundry, for the second year in a row–though she hasn’t posted hers yet this year.)

Please copy/paste for yourself! If you do post this on your own blog, link to your entry in the comments here and we will all be best friends. If you don’t have a blog, you can answer in the comments section.

1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

Hmm. This is surprisingly difficult to answer. Difficult as in I’ve-been-staring-at-the-screen-for-20-minutes difficult. I guess I just found my 2012 resolution…make a life list and cross some stuff off if it already. My lord.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? 
One terrible thing about blogging is that you can go back and see for sure the promises you made and the epiphanies you had, and then see how you subsequently ignored them and repeated the same old patterns with the same old results. So, yes, I did make resolutions, and no, I didn’t keep them. I came kind of close though? On a couple? And, on the bright side, they are an excellent template for this year’s resolutions.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

Some cousins and college friends birthed this year, though I sadly have only held one of those babies. I like babies when they’re brand new, and you can tell they are still seeing some other cosmos when you look into their eyes. Great baby names though…Lila and Fiona are my favorites.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Like last year, I’m a little too black Irish to call 2011 a fait accompli, but so far so good.  I did get sad news about an old friend though. RIP, Mikey.

5. What countries did you visit?

France–magical, beautiful, swoony Paris. Did I tell you that I kept a really detailed travel journal in a Moleskine notebook, full of blog ideas and deep thoughts and funny lists, and that I cannot find the damn thing anywhere? True, sad story.

6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?

I’ll quote myself yet again:

I want love. I want words of love, and acts of love, and a commitment to love.

I want someone who thinks my tendency to compulsively sing is endearing, or even hot. I want a man I can surprise with the perfect thing, whether it’s a back rub or a blowjob or beef stew. I want someone who will leave me alone when I’m in a bad mood, but not for too long. I want someone as complicated and game as I am, whose baggage matches mine. I don’t seek perfection, just a work in progress that everyone is committed to improving every day.

And, just in case the universe is listening for once, I want not just to fall in love, but to fall in love with someone who is in love with me. Lots of people do this, and I am ready for my turn now. NOW.

In 2012, I also want to develop a healthier relationship with my body. Maybe, like, take care of it or something? I’ve heard that grownups do that. I’m investigating.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

Sadly, getting my heart smashed into a million pieces will probably stick. In retrospect, I’m not so sure live-blogging that whole thing was my best move, though it felt very therapeutic at the time. I can’t look at those posts though. Blech.

On a much more positive note, I loved and cherished each minute of my time in Paris with my mom and sister. (Or, at minimum, 95% of those minutes. We all got a little cranky once or twice.) I’ll always remember that trip.

How beautiful is my mom?

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Once again, I’m drawing a blank. I think I’ve stayed on my depression meds pretty reliably, with only a few slip-ups, and some of them were not my fault. That’s gotta count for something. I’ve found one that has no side effects too, and my clitoris is very grateful.

9. What was your biggest failure?

Poor budgeting. I really need to take control of the financial aspects of my life. Or maybe place myself in receivership.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Up until last week, I had not been on antibiotics for TWO YEARS. That’s a lifetime record, for sure. The worst thing that happened to me health-wise this year was a week or so of awful panic attacks this summer, which has never happened to me before and better never happen again because it was terrible.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

I bought a ridiculous number of things I did not need this year. It makes me sick to think about it. The best thing I spent money on was definitely Paris–isn’t that almost always true of travel, though? Experience trumps material crap. I should get that tattooed somewhere.

12. Where did most of your money go?

Rent and…out the window, out the door, in the pockets of waiters, to fine dress and boot purveyors, to makers of costume jewelry, to Anthropologie for a quilt I found on clearance and “had to” have (it was like 80% off, in my defense, and it’s beautiful). An ungodly amount spent on ebooks at Amazon. Gas for the Philly commute. Worthless trinkets and treats to soothe me after Le Dumping. Truly, it is disgusting to think about, and this feeling of disgust has strongly influenced my forthcoming 2012 resolutions.

13. What did you get really excited about?

Lieu and Paris.

14. What song will always remind you of 2011?

I listened to this song on repeat 10,000 times this summer. Love love love.

Sydney by Brett Dennen

15. Compared to this time last year, are you:
Happier or sadder?
 Sadder…Looking back, Christmas through June 2011 was the time that I was happiest with Lieu.
Thinner or fatter? Same.
Richer or poorer? Financially poorer, most definitely.

16. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Excercised. Orgasmed. Seen my family. Cuddled my part-time dog. Organized myself. Worked industriously.

17. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Eat. Dwell on the Lieu saga.  Fritter away money.  Be alone. (Same as last year! Nice to see that I am evolving.)

18. How did you spend Christmas?

Christmas was good this year. I went home to Ohio a few days early and discovered that I am an awesome cookie decorator. I bopped around to many festive events. I got a leopard-print pencil skirt that I hope someone finds seductive. I did not puke, as I did last year in New Orleans.

19. What was your favorite TV program?

Homeland! I am a gushing fangirl for this show.

20. What were your favorite books of the year?

See the list here. I have since finished The Marriage Plot by Jeffrey Eugenides, and here is my one-sentence endorsement: If The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen and Franny and Zooey by JD Salinger had a baby, that baby would be The Marriage Plot, and it would be a lovely baby, though not quite as smart and handsome as either of its parents.

21. What was your favorite music from this year?

The kind that makes you cry on a dark wet highway alone at night. Marry me!

22. What were your favorite films of the year?

I have recently been accused of never liking any films, and this may be true because I can’t think of any I did like. I have weird taste in film, which you will find especially believable in light of the following statement: I saw Mission Impossible:Ghost Protocol on Christmas Day and enjoyed it very much. Normally, I only watch documentaries, Harry Potter movies, and anything with even the briefest glimpse of Mark Wahlburg in it.

23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Karaoke at Muzette (very, very fun) and a fancy waterfront dinner with Lieu. I was 36, unfortunately.

24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Love, love, love, love, crazy love. A book deal. A baby.

25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

V-neck dress, leggings, tall boots…these things are eternal, though this year I added skinny jeans and good lingerie.

26. What kept you sane?

This blog and the people who read and comment went a long way toward keeping me (relatively) sane. Thank you.

27. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.

I can take risks, lose, and live to tell. I am not a fragile piece of glass that will shatter if it is jostled (though it could be argued that I do crack a bit.)

I have the quote below taped to the wall by my desk. Use it as you will.

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.–Ralph Waldo Emerson

BONUS: This song is my New Year’s anthem every year. Blast it at your soonest opportunity.

This Year by The Mountain Goats


18 Responses to “25 Thing Thursday: 2011 Year in Review Questionnaire”

  1. MJ says:

    YES!. Even though I got a little confused about this via Twitter…I love it. I’m going to take it and blog it after this horrific week ends. (Now might be a bad time to assess my life, I’m thinking.) I will answer #26: What kept you sane? This blog and several others by 30-something women about love and life definitely went a looong way. Thank YOU.

  2. meridith says:

    That is a wonderful quote and one I subscribe to heartily. I hope 2012 brings fantastic things.

  3. Slauditory says:

    The thing you said about experience being worth more than material things really rings true with me. I need to remember that every time I think about eating a meal at a restaurant. This girl needs to take her first trip out of North America.

  4. Meg says:

    Love that quote, and you’re absolutely right that money spent on experiences trumps stuff every time. I blew a ton of cash going to the UK this year and London several times in previous years, and it’s scary to think of all the money that went to airfare and food and such, but I would never trade those moments for anything. Those memories can carry me through some sad or dull days.

  5. Michael Ann says:

    Great post. I enjoyed reading it but I think I’m too tired to try to fill it out myself. I can relate to a lot of what you talk about. All you need is love. Truly. Yea, getting to know yourself and love who you are , all that, is important. But really, what joy is there in life if there is no one to share it all with?

  6. Lisa says:

    I tried to do the meme again this year but just could not think of remotely interesting answers, so I did a year end wrap up instead. I hope that your 2012 brings you more happiness than 2011 did. I found your blog through swistle this summer and I’ve really enjoyed your writing (not your misery, I feel sad for your misery, but your writing is really good.)

  7. rooth says:

    That’s a really honest and open wrap up for the year – here’s to hoping 2012 brings a new (good) adventure!

  8. Bexxx says:

    Ah, this is awesome! I just clicked through to your blog for the first time and I think this is a good starter post because it shows me what you’re interested in and do. Now I’m interested! Totally subscribing.

  9. Caroline says:

    I love the quote. I will print it and post it too. On an unrelated note, I started reading a book last night, On My Own by Florence Falk. I love it and thought you might like it too. Best wishes for 2012!

  10. Jesabes says:

    I also found you through Swistle and have enjoyed reading your blog this year. I hope 2012 is great for you!

  11. Sherri says:

    Thank you for your honest and touching post – somehow I can relate to much of your experiences…Let’s all hope for lots mote love, less stress, good sex and happiness in 2012.

    Happy New Year’s!

    xoxox s

  12. #2 – yes. This. I hate that feeling of being stuck – walking the same path until it’s become a deep crevasse whose walls are too high to climb – and KNOWING that you’re stuck but still! being unable to unstick! Maddening.

    #27 – that quote is perfect. Words to live by.

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  14. Melospiza says:

    One of the best things I started doing this year is reading this blog. Sometimes year-end summaries can be tedious (case in point: mine–, but I love this. And I love that quote. wish I could live up to it more often, tho.

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