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Archive for June, 2010

Jun 29
2010

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Even though I’ve had some extracurricular activities lately that were diverting, and a very good and promising date with the Republican, a big piece of my heart is still with Lieu. The distractions have helped–and I hate to quantify them as merely distractions, because my Republican dates were genuinely good by any standard, and I [...]


Jun 27
2010

Eating crow

Over the years I have strongly counseled friends of mine not to give succor to the enemy by dating Republicans.  Yes, this actually is how partisan I am, particularly around presidential elections.  I also refused to enter the state of Ohio–where I was born and where my family lives–for two years after they went red [...]


Jun 25
2010

Why Guys Strike Out on Craigslist Personals

Guys, this is why you may be striking out on CL (All over this) Some of us are here looking for love. Some of us are here looking for sex. Some of us are here looking for a simple date, a way to pass the time in this swamp full of transients. Many would take [...]


Jun 24
2010

How to Break Every Single Rule of Internet Dating at Once

(Or, a story about tomorrow’s date.  Let’s just say I hope my next post is titled “And Live to Tell the Tale”.) To even begin, you have to have given up all dating inhibitions ages and ages ago.  Let’s face it, it’s a numbers game and the numbers are against us.  If you’re lucky, you [...]


Jun 23
2010

Mojo Rising

I have a lot of mojo. (As an aside, isn’t it annoying when people use childish nonsense words to refer to anything associated with sexuality?  Like mojo for sex drive or hoo-ha for vagina?  I hate that.) (As an aside, I had a minor hoo-ha operation the other day but don’t worry!  It was routine [...]


Jun 21
2010

Home again home again

I conquered Polynesia and lived to tell the tale. It was a great family vacation.  I had the kind of time with this side of the family that I used to have all the time with the other side.  It felt comfortable, and good, and like the beginning of something better.  I’ve always been uneasy [...]


Jun 13
2010

Wedding weekend two

I am at a fabulous wedding in Hawaii. I am staying in a fabulous house with fabulous people I love. I had a pretty promising date the day before I left. I know I’m a lucky girl. Yet right now I’m hiding out in the back with a glass of wine and a stolen cigarette, [...]


Jun 10
2010

In Lieu Again

I saw Lieu again this week. It’s still not a good idea, things still are far from perfect, he made it pretty clear that it’s status quo for him as far as his ability to be in a relationship, but oh my was it wonderful. To see him and smell him and hold him again…not [...]


Jun 07
2010

Dancing About Architecture

A brief history of love and how I am not good at it.  Some puzzling themes emerge, and our heroine begins to look even worse than she has already made herself out to be. 1.  EJS: This was the first boy I ever loved, in kindergarten.  I displayed my love by knocking him down on [...]


Jun 04
2010

And One More Really Excellent Poem

Again just because. I Go Back to May 1937 Sharon Olds I see them standing at the formal gates of their colleges, I see my father strolling out under the ochre sandstone arch, the red tiles glinting like bent plates of blood behind his head, I see my mother with a few light books at [...]